I know it’s a bit late now. As promised, before I go to bed, I meant to email you a few Internet links on the subject we discussed earlier today. Most of the following links are accessible from my personal website from http://www.gaspardlafalaisejr.com/  or from my personal blog at http://www.gaspardlafalaisejr.com/blog/ . If you find other relevant ones, please tell me about them.

I want to direct you to an interesting story titled “The Government, Divorce, and the War on Fatherhood” published very recently about the mistreatment and the unfairness that American fathers are victims of in the country.

The article also mentions an interesting book titled “Taken into Custody: The War against Fatherhood, Marriage, and the Family” – which is available at Amazon.com. I commented about both the article and the book in my blog that you can find at

http://www.gaspardlafalaisejr.com/blog/ ; and at  

http://www.fathers-dignity.info/blog/2009/07/21/the-war-against-fatherhood-marriage-and-the-family/ .

As I mentioned to you, the war against fatherhood, the oppressed fathers and their abused children is raging in the country. The following paragraph which was taken from the above mentioned article is a very interesting one and summarizes the matter in a certain sense:

“The fathers may have committed no crime; they may in fact be more dedicated than the mother to the marital stability that’s in their kids’ best interest, but no matter. The mother is rewarded for courageously having taken the “initiative” in the divorce — for having invited, that is, the power of the state to arbitrate in the most private areas of their family life. Maneuvered by skilled lawyers, abetted by social-science “experts” steeped in anti-father ideology and myths, and followed by media more interested in soap-opera storylines than justice, she can by the very hint of a suggestion of an accusation — of physical or sexual abuse, for example, or mental or emotional cruelty — rob a man of his marriage, his children, and his livelihood.”

On the right column of my personal blog, you will find a few links to numerous organizations and support groups devoted to the advocacy of the rights of the fathers and their children and of the family in general. I am a member or have some other affiliations with a few of them. Some of them have an international presence all over the world; others exist only in the United States.  Some are nationwide, others only maintain a presence and influence in their home state.

Unless they are directly involved into a custody battle, many Americans are ignorant of this crisis. Mental laziness dictates to them to blindly place their trust into a corrupt court system and to automatically distrust all the fathers who lost custody of the children they love. However the statistics speak for themselves: in about 90% of custody cases, mothers receive custody of the children. The saddest side of this reality is that by denying the children and their fathers’ access to each other, the judges perpetuate fatherlessness in the United States. But the reality is that we all indistinctively suffer from the negative effects of fatherlessness and the burden for our society. Long after these abused children have reached emancipation age and their oppressed fathers stopped paying child support, our society will continue to suffer the consequences of a vicious judge’s order that violated a father and his children’s rights to access each other with homelessness, the perpetuation of broken families and counterproductive social welfare programs, etc …. And; we all may have to pay the consequences even harder in the next few years. As I told you, I do not take “Institutionalized American Fatherlessness” (that’s how I personally definite it – I conceived the term myself) – I do not take it personally. Even though that I consider my children and I victims of it, but, I refused to let ourselves be victimized by it.  I personally think that the majority of the fathers are good fathers and a lot of them are victims of falsehood, coercion and orchestrated abandonment and assassination of their characters and their dignity. Many others, mothers and fathers and several groups that I am currently working with share the same view.

If I can help only one father to avoid the trap; if I can help only one child to recognize that her father loves her very much – despite the fact that she and her father do not have access to each other because of a greedy single mother or vicious judge who interfered into their normal relationship – I have reached my goal.

In my personal website, I stated that

“I will never withdraw my presence and support from my children; renege on my duties, responsibilities, and obligations as a father; I will never betray my covenant or commitment to provide, protect and instruct my children.”

But, you know that I will take one step further whenever necessary: that is I will fight anyone any who anywhere any time and whoever violates my rights or those of my children to access each other. As you know, I may not be able to change the direction of the wind of American fatherlessness, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination. If I travel the popular roads, my children and I will obviously end up to the  popular destination. A road with no obstacles probably does not lead anywhere. I pray God every day to give me the courage to continue.

Several months ago, you shared with me, and we commented on the following quote:

“You do not have to be great to get started, but you must start in order to be great”.

I admire and I am very grateful for your guidance and your insights. I am honored by your time, your genuine friendship and goodwill. Even thought I set my expectations to where they are, whatever comes out of this is truly in God’s hands. I do not worry one bit about tomorrow for I know Who holds tomorrow. All I ever wanted – the desire of my heart – is only peace to continue to fulfill my roles as a father.

“Those who seek greatness rarely find it. Those who seek characters, integrity, wisdom and the truth somehow find greatness as well”.

If it is God’s will that greatness is in the store for me also, I may enjoy that as well.

I can not thank you enough,

Cheers,

"Taken into Custody: The War Against Fatherhood, Marriage, and the Family" (Hardcover)

This is the title of a book actually! – available at Amazon.com.  I have not finished reading the book yet.  But, I soon as I do, I will certainly share my opinions here.  I smell that it may contain some good insights that will help us win the war against institutionalized American fatherlessness.

The original story that was sent to me can be found at this link:   “The Government, Divorce, and the War on Fatherhood” published by Todd M. Aglialoro on 7/31/08. I think the United States is in bigger trouble than we thought and all eyes are pointed to the Command-in-Chief in charge: President Barack H Obama.

In response to his two last Fathers’ Day speeches, his general stand and his language in regards to fatherhood, I wrote and sent him an open letter (to The White House) to urge him to take the lead in this war on behalf of the oppressed fathers and their abused childred of the United States.  In my open letter to him, I said to him:

“Institutionalized American fatherlessness is the weapon of mass destruction that the US government is so desperately looking for elsewhere. It is here on U.S. soil. It has a location: the family courts. The perpetrators are vicious judges and their greedy watchdogs. The victims are the abused fatherless children and their oppressed good responsible fathers who you have not yet brought to the discussion circle.“

I also told him that:

“Honestly, freeing the oppressed fathers and their abused children from the yokes of the institutionalized American fatherlessness is an enterprise of titanic proportion. Like the emancipation of slavery and the advancement of the civil rights movement; the dismantlement of US fatherlessness is a task reserved for the fearless and the braves.

If you can, then I am sure that the oppressed fathers will be more than happy to return to their homes with their dignity to raise courageous young men and young women who will contribute to bring prosperity back into the land. And, you will have your place in history among the titans.

If you can not, then it would be wiser to “set a guard, over your mouth; and keep watch over the door of your lips” with respect to fatherhood. Because, your love for your own children and your convictions as a father have not yet been tried by the adversities and the circumstances that the fathers who you wrongfully accused have gone through.“

Fathers’ confidence (as well as their dignity) is a proven good investment in their children and in the future of nations. Political leaders must abide by that principle.

You may view and download a copy of my “Open Letter to President Barack H Obama” at my web site by clicking here.

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That’s a good question!

The answer is …

Blinded, or heavily concerned about the destructive effects of fatherlessness in the United States; President Barack H Obama – perhaps because of misinformation or his ignorance on this matter – is taking a very dangerous stand against U.S. Fathers.  He is using the same old fearful speech that only alienates American Fathers and; by the same token, he is casting a shadow of bad reputation on his own dad.

 However, as the President of the United States, a legislator and an intelligent man; today, he also holds the key to destroy institutionalized American fatherlessness forever in his country – if he wants.

Consequently, it becomes more urgent that all concerned families and fathers and families advocates;  and all oppressed fathers to keep on the light, and to spread the truth about fatherhood.

Here is an accurate opinion on “restoring fatherhood dignity” by Leon R. Koziol posted on June 21, 2009 at The Utica Observer-Dispath (UticaOD.com) of GateHouse Media, Inc., UTICA NY United States.

Opinion: “Father’s Day 2009: Reform can help restore dignity to fatherhood” Click here to read it.

On June 24th, 2009, I wrote and sent an “Open Letter to President Barack H Obama” and to several fathers and families advocacy organizations to express my concerns and to urge him to take a different stand. Click here to read or to download a copy.

In our community of nations, we have learned the hard way that when one nation falls, we all suffer. Incidentally, when one nation rises up, we all benefit.

Fathers’ confidence is a proven good investment in their children and in the future of nations. Political leaders must abide by that principle.

What do you think?

If not now, when?

When God wants to drill a man,
And thrill a man,
And skill a man …

When God wants to mold a man to play the noblest part;

When He yearns with all His heart
To create so great and bold a man

That all the world shall be amazed,

Watch His methods;
Watch His ways!

How He ruthlessly perfects
Whom He royally elects!

How He hammers him and hurts him,
And with mighty blows converts him
Into frail shapes of clay
That only God understands;
While his tortured heart is crying
And he lifts beseeching hands!

How he bends but never breaks
When His good he undertakes.
How He uses whom He chooses
And with every purpose fuses him;
By every art induces him
To try His splendour out -

God knows what He’s about!

  – Author Unknown

You can hear this poem if you click this play button   .
 This piece of poetry was communicated to me earlier this week.  After a few hours, it quickly becomes my favorite poem  – before “IF” of Rudyard Kipling.  I am searching for its author, until then I have to credit it to anonimity.

When I was in high school, I was forced to memorized “If” by Rudy Kippling.  After my passage through puberty and my coming of age and being a man and a father, I then knew the true meaning and value of this poem “IF” of Rudyard Kippling.  Joseph Rudyard Kipling  (30 December 1865 – 18 January 1936) was a British author and poet.  Learn more here.

I praise God every day and blessed His name forever for my educators and for all of those who guided me to the right path.

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It is very rare to find such great inspiration from today’s writers, columnists, editors or publishers.  While reading “In Search of Dignity”, I felt carried away on a nice ride on the wings of morality and dignity.  I love the story, Mr. Brooks’  choice of words, the moral principles he laid out and the examples that he chose to illustrate.  But, at the last paragraph, I was dropped me flat on my face when he uses President Barack H Obama as an example of a person who “exemplifies reticence, dispassion and other traits associated with dignity”.

I do not know President Obama personally other than what is said about him by the media and his own words throughout his own published books, speeches and dialogs.  One thing I know for sure is that he does not demonstrate the wisdom that one would expect from a person with dignity when he speaks or makes decision about American fatherlessness, the oppressed good responsible fathers and their abused children.

Dignity is generally proscriptive and cautionary.

Dignity should dictate to President Obama that all fathers and their children have God-given, inviolable rights to access each other without the interferences of another person (the greedy single mothers) or an institution (the family courts and disgraceful judges).  President Obama with his own words attacks American fathers’ dignity and the roles of the fathers in their families; and destroys their confidence.  I addressed my concerns to him in  my “Open Letter to President Barack H Obama” on this matter. A copy of the letter can be download and read at my web site – the direct link to the letter is:  http://www.gaspardlafalaisejr.com/open-letter-to-president-barack-obama.html .

Mr. Brooks’ story (”In Search of Dignity”) is a wonderful story, but too short. The last paragraph is nothing than what I beleive is a sort of “moral suicide”:  it kills the whole story!

Other than that, I would recommend everyone to read “In Search of Dignity”.  It is a beautiful!

It is a beautiful way to portray George Washinton as one of the forefathers who shaped the prosperous past of the United States.  He laid down the foundation of a great nation on the principles of morality, decency and self rectitude. He was a true hero.  I love when Mr. Brooks said that

“Washington became a great man and was acclaimed as a classical hero because of the way he conducted himself during times of temptation.  It was his moral character that set him off from other men.”

How much I wish we had men like this today!

How much I wish we had teachers to teach our children things like this in the classrooms!

Mr. Brooks continues

“Washington absorbed, and later came to personify what you might call the dignity code. The code was based on the same premise as the nation’s Constitution — that human beings are flawed creatures who live in constant peril of falling into disasters caused by their own passions. Artificial systems have to be created to balance and restrain their desires.“

Beautiful!

“The dignity code commanded its followers to be disinterested — to endeavor to put national interests above personal interests.  It commanded its followers to be reticent — to never degrade intimate emotions by parading them in public.  It also commanded its followers to be dispassionate — to distrust rashness, zealotry, fury and political enthusiasm.”

I love it!

“Remnants of the dignity code lasted for decades. For most of American history, politicians did not publicly campaign for president. It was thought that the act of publicly promoting oneself was ruinously corrupting. For most of American history, memoirists passed over the intimacies of private life. Even in the 19th century, people were appalled that journalists might pollute a wedding by covering it in the press.“

Sweet!

Delightful!

“In each of these events, one sees people who simply have no social norms to guide them as they try to navigate the currents of their own passions.”

“Americans still admire dignity. But the word has become unmoored from any larger set of rules or ethical system.”

After almost three weeks of Machael Jackon, Governor Sarah Palin,  … that’s all I needed for healing!
Thanks a millions David! 

Oh! Let’s leave it here for now; and not say anything more!

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A version of this article appeared in print on July 7, 2009, on page A23 of the New York edition.
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Related links:

1. “In Search of Dignity” by David Brooks, Op-Ed Columnist, The New York Times, July 7, 2009
2. Open Letter To Presdient Brack H Obama by Gaspard Lafalaise Jr
3. “Dignity” definition by the Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary:   “ formal reserve or seriousness of manner, appearance, or language”

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We can help President Barack H Obama to understand that:

1. Good responsible Fathers are frightened by the same old rhetoric that he and other political leaders are treacherously using;
2. Fathers are not the enemy. They are the solution.
3. Family court judges with their confederated watchdogs and with the complicity of duped single mothers are systematically and viciously orchestrating the abandonment by the fathers with falsehood and coercion.

I encourage you and all concerned organizations and U.S. citizens to contact President Barack H Obama directly by phone, fax, email, mail or in person – if possible – to urge him to take the lead in the restoration of American Fathers’ dignity before they can confidently return to their children to raise young men and young women who will have the capacity to bring prosperity back in the United States.

As a symbolic gesture of his commitment, let’s urge him to proclaim this Fourth of July 2009 the day of the liberation of the United States from the yokes of institutionalized fatherlessness by declaring it a day of prayers with reasonable and liberal visitation rights for all fathers and their children who are denied access to each other because of a disgraceful judge’s court order.
Read a copy of my “Open Letter to President Barack H Obama” on this matter - sent to several partner organizations for immediate release - for your consideration.
In our community of nations, we have learned the hard way that when one nation falls, we all suffer. Incidentally, when one nation rises up, we all benefit.
The restoration of U.S. Fathers’ confidence is a proven good investment in their children and in the future of nations. Political leaders must abide by that principle.

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Wednesday, June 24^th, 2009

President Barack Obama
The White House
1600 Pennsylvania Avenue NW
Washington, DC 20500

RE: Fatherlessness in United States

Dear Mr. President Barack Obama,

I take the liberty to write you this letter because I sense your genuine and sincere desire to do something positive about fatherlessness in the United States.  Furthermore, today you have the authority to do it. You lived with the problem, and you can see it; unfortunately, in at least two occasions you dangerously failed to define it properly.

Last year, on June 15, 2008 in Chicago at your Father’s Day speech, you offended the fathers by wrongfully accusing them of abandoning their own children. Your speech only alienated American fathers who are already the victims of falsehood.

This year, your Father’s Day speech again painted fathers with the same blames and falsehood that only created more fear in the heart of good responsible fathers. Worst of all, this year you put it totally backwards. I do not know of any place or time where communities ever supported or “counseled fathers”. Where do you get that from? On the contrary, throughout times and history; men, husbands and fathers bravely stood up and endured sacrifices to provide, to protect and to empower their wives, their children and their communities. This is the way it is in any other country. And; this is the way it has always been here before the United States was led by the last five consecutive presidents who have all been deprived of the counsel of their own fathers.

Like the majority of the children in this country, you are just a victim who may still carry the scars of the pains and sufferings of American fatherlessness. I admire your honesty about it and your sincerity for wanting to address this problem. But, you may not even have scratched the surface. Try to bring to the discussion the real victims:

1. The oppressed fathers who are forbidden to approach their own children and;
2. Their abused children whose access to their own dads has been denied by family courts judges.

I believe you have no idea how many American fathers would love to baby-sit their own children or to publicly display their affections for them just like you do with your own. In addition, they would also love to provide, to protect and to counsel them if their legitimate rights were not oppressed.

I believe you have no idea how many American children would love to have their own dad cheer for them on the athletic fields, for their good report cards or at the concert recitals. Like you were, they silently bear all the emotionally pains and sufferings because they have no one to turn to. And, they may carry the emotional and psychological scars with them for the rest of their lives.

The only difference between these oppressed absentee fathers and you, is a disgraceful judge decree that denied their rights and privileges to approach their own children and to be involved in their lives.

The only difference between their abused children and yours is an abusive single mother who is one of the watchdogs of the institutionalized American fatherlessness.

Your fatherhood speeches are politically correct because like many others, they acclaim the single mothers with flattery; they condemn the oppressed fathers with falsehood; and they victimize the fatherless children so that the US government can forge justifications to come to their rescue with social welfare programs that are counterproductive; and exorbitant loans. But, if we want to be honest with ourselves, we must admit that there is a huge problem with that rhetoric. It fails our children, it fails this generation; and it also fails this nation with the worst plaguing moral, economic and leadership crisis ever recorded in the history of the land.

If you want the oppressed fathers to return to their children, the U.S. government must first withdraw itself from our homes and from competing on the roles of the fathers. You inherit a political culture that has created every imaginable and arbitrary program that undermines the roles of the fathers in their families. Your White House even has a program for our wives and for our daughters. What do you want the American fathers to come back to their homes to do then? If you really want fathers to come back to their homes then, get out of the way!

Fathers did not create the problem. Your predecessor presidents created it when they sent fathers to die in foreign wars. And then, to those who came back they fail to provide the support they need to take care of their wives and children. This is how we got into this problem in the first place; and then it escalated exponentially until today when it is out of proportion – with all its fruits. When you are making your decisions to declare new foreign wars or to expand the existing ones, account for additional fatherless children among the casualties.

Institutionalized American fatherlessness is the weapon of mass destruction that the US government is so desperately looking for elsewhere. It is here on U.S. soil. It has a location: the family courts. The perpetrators are vicious judges and their greedy watchdogs. The victims are the abused fatherless children and their oppressed good responsible fathers who you have not yet brought to the discussion circle.

If it was not for the grace of God and His Mighty Hands, I would know the fate of your dad and my children would unfortunately grow up fatherless – just like you were and many other good kids. But, not every oppressed father and his abused children are blessed like us. I am encouraging all the brave purposeful fathers to join the war against fatherlessness, to withstand the adversities directed toward them and their children courageously; and to fight the good fight for their children, for themselves and for this country. You can be a blessing for them!

It seems that you know, and you care. Today, you are the smartest man in the room with the expertise and the authority to dismantle the American fatherlessness factory. The solution is not in flattery to the single mothers, nor in false compassion to the abused children and not in the blaming of their oppressed fathers. Corrupt judges in family courts of your nation are creating fatherless children faster and in numbers that exceed what World War I & II combined have produced.

American children do not care about your “Council on Women and Girls” nor do they care about another version of the “No Child Left Behind Act”, and not in any buildings and flags proclamation business. How American children and fathers will be able “to express their love, respect, and admiration” to each other when a vicious judge’s decree denied them access to each other. Your proclamation then is as good as an empty speech because it left behind and it is inapplicable to more than half of the U.S. population.  American children and their good responsible fathers want the freedom to access each other without the interferences of vicious judges and their greedy watchdogs.

American fathers and their children would love to see the changes that you promised. But, they despise the same old rhetoric of falsehood here, flattery there and victimization all over to fabricate fictitious heroes. This old rhetoric frightens good responsible dads – like me. It is the root of the institutionalized American fatherlessness. And, the fruit of it is the worst plaguing moral, economic and leadership crisis ever recorded in American history. And, the American people are eating it right now!

For this reason also, U.S. foreign policies have and will utterly fail.

Honestly, freeing the oppressed fathers and their abused children from the yokes of the institutionalized American fatherlessness is an enterprise of titanic proportion. Like the emancipation of slavery and the advancement of the civil rights movement; the dismantlement of US fatherlessness is a task reserved for the fearless and the braves.

If you can, then I am sure that the oppressed fathers will be more than happy to return to their homes with their dignity to raise courageous young men and young women who will contribute to bring prosperity back into the land. And, you will have your place in history among the titans.

If you can not, then it would be wiser to “set a guard, over your mouth; and keep watch over the door of your lips” with respect to fatherhood.  Because, your love for your own children and your convictions as a father have not yet been tried by the adversities and the circumstances that the fathers who you wrongfully accused have gone through.

The truth is what the reality is. Do not confuse my truthfulness with my respect for you as the President of the country where I temporarily reside. I would not do anyone a favor if I had to use flattery words to seduce you.

I urge you to proclaim this 4^th of July 2009 the day of Liberation of this country from the yokes of institutionalized fatherlessness by declaring this day a day of prayers with reasonable and liberal visitation rights for all good responsible fathers and their abused children who are denied access to each other because of a disgraceful judge’s order. You will see how many honest little and big smiles you will have. You will know that these fathers who are falsely accused of abandoning their own children are no more than good responsible dads who are frightened by fearful speeches of political leaders and by the monstrous U.S. fatherlessness institution. This bold decision would be a symbolic gesture of yours to the terrified fathers and their abused and frightened children that they have to fear no more!

You have the opportunity to be a true hero!

You can be a blessing to them!

With truthfulness, sincerity
and with much respect,

/s/ Gaspard Lafalaise Jr

As Fathers, we have today a dozen billions of good reasons to celebrate and also cause to think about our roles as Father - and consequently as Husband too.

I arrived – from Haiti - in the United States when the country was still perceived as the most economically and military powerful country in the world.  Today, the whole world and I are very sad to witness the free fall of a nation crippled by three plagues: a moral crisis, an economic crisis and a leadership crisis.  Worst of all, the United States are dragging with them several nations who have put their trust in them.  This misfortune did not come by accident.  In fact, it was clearly predicted several decades ago by the Bible, and many contemporary thinkers and the like.

On Father’s Day, we should not be thinking about the world problems or the US problems.  We should rather take this day to cherish our children in our own caring loving special way.  However, the thoughts of what kind of world we are shaping today for our children for tomorrow just can not get out of my mind.

When our first child came out of her mother’s womb, we acquire the best crib that we can afford to welcome him.  I gave up promising education and business opportunities to raise my son. My brother purchased a larger house. My cousin hired a stay-home nanny for the baby. My colleague surprised his wife with a larger car before the baby was born. Is that it? What about tomorrow when they leave our umbrella to meet the real world and ready to make decisions that will change our very lives and the lives of other generations to come?  Should not we fathers  – at least – “preserve” the good stuff that we inherit from our own Dad?

I’ve decided to publish the second part of my thoughts on Father’s Day today on the following Monday after father’s day because I figured, thinking these things on Father’s Day is not a good idea and might require another day on its own. While, we are at it; if I ever occupy the adequate political position, I think I will push for a new law to decree a special holiday just for fathers: maintaining “Father’s Day” on a Sunday to enjoy and cherish our children and wife and; another legal holiday the following Monday that I would call something like “Brave Purposeful Father’s Day” – so that while our children are at school, Fathers can be at peace (and no work) to reflect on their roles as fathers.

This idea may seem like a joke, a dream or a wishful thinking.  But, when you look back at the last quarter of century of the history of a country like the United States … and now with an ever rapidly increasing national debt of $ 11,342,734,351,973.14 as of June 18, 2009 … (I just can not finish the sentence – chif sa-yo banm tèt vire!).  That’s just the poorest country in the world!

It would require every US citizen to add up another $37,000 unto their existing personal debts to pay off their national debt.

Despite this fact, when I listen to the political decisions that are being made every day in the US, I feel like the US government is acting like a “shopaholic woman” who knows that her “sugar daddy” will always be there to bail her out.

Instead of minding their own business at home, where the problem is, they are getting into everybody else affairs and touring the world like Hollywood celebrities.

As a citizen you may say “That’s noting, I can pay my share in one year”. But, hold on. How many people around you will not be able to afford their share? You may have to pickup their load too.

As a father, this is how this staggering number translates into. More taxes. Some more taxes. And again more taxes. Less; and lesser; and far lesser for you and your family to send your children to school, to pay for health care, … and less for your nursing home expenses, … and negatively something for your children inheritance – unless you have the courage to add into your will that it is ok to just burn you in the backyard as soon and as quietly as possible.  Who else do you think is the “sugar daddy”? China? Japan? The foreign oil exporters? Or those who just said “no more!”

Each of us may feel more comfortable with one answer or another, but the truth is what the reality is.  And the reality is:

“The borrower is slave to the lender. When you are in debt to another, you enter into a slave/master relationship with the creditor.”

Think about that next time you sing or hear

“O’er the land of the free and the home of the brave”.

I say that in the hope that we the brave and purposeful fathers can wake up and ask:

“What have we done?”

“Where are our children?”

“What are we doing?”

Theses three questions will make sense to a purposeful and brave father only after observing with me with deep sadness that our last three US President did not have a healthy relationship with their own father.

In fact two of them, presidents Bill Clinton and Barack Obama did not know their father at all. Both presidents George Herbert W. and George W. Bush were sent far away from their respective father at a very young age for out of state schooling.  Therefore, like presidents Bill Clinton and Barack Obama, they were both deprived of the instructions of their respective father.

Furthermore, President Ronald Reagan [1981-1989] left his father’s umbrella at twenty-one years of age to pursue a traveling actor career before he became president of the United States in 1981. Exactly about two years after he began to lead the nation – as commander-in-chief - trouble with the US national debt started.

We always thought that United States is a fatherless nation because our US governments consistently rejected the values of the forefathers of the land and because of the ignorant US Judges who are viciously denying the children access to their fathers. I think that there is worst to come after more than a quarter of century with five consecutive US presidents who were all deprived of the instructions of their own fathers.

When you take my observations and add it to this famous quote from George Herbert [1593-1633] who stated:

“One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters”,

it all make sense! Doesn’t it?

“I think the problem of the United States is fatherlessness; and I think the only solution is with us – Fathers.”

“If we claim our children back to provide, to protect and to instruct them, then I am certain that we can make another Toussaint Louverture or Abraham Lincoln:  a man of convictions, of courage and strength;  a man of fortitude who can set his mind on a national problem, withstand adversities and encounter victory.  Then and only then, Father’s Day will be happier!“

“Fathers, join the war for our children and for our nation.”

Otherwise, do not complaint when you and your children join the rank of the losers – and of the slaves.